Today, something personal. I\u2019ll tell you about a pattern I catch myself in more often than I\u2019d like. It\u2019s FOMO – fear of missing out. <\/p>\n\n
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It doesn\u2019t always look like the anxious \u201cWhat if I was invited?\u201d
\u2013 You take on a new project, even though your calendar is full <\/p>\n\n
\u2013 You save webinars and articles you\u2019ll probably never open <\/p>\n\n
\u2013 You scroll through job ads, even if you\u2019re not looking to change jobs <\/p>\n\n
\u2013 You\u2019re afraid to miss something \u201cimportant\u201d – but can\u2019t even tell if it\u2019s important to you<\/p>\n\n
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From the outside, it can look like curiosity, ambition, hunger for growth. But often, there\u2019s anxiety hiding underneath. And that familiar confusion: what, out of all this, is actually mine? <\/p>\n\n
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I notice FOMO in myself when:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n – I squeeze someone into my schedule for a counselling, even though the day is already packed – \u201cwhat if they can\u2019t wait a week?\u201d<\/p>\n\n – I say yes to a new client with an exciting project – \u201cwhat if this is the last interesting one for a while?\u201d <\/p>\n\n – On vacation, I try to see everything in the city – \u201cwhat if I never come back here?\u201d<\/p>\n\n – I burn in the sun again – \u201cwell, there\u2019s no sun back home anyway\u201d<\/p>\n\n – Courses, courses, more courses. I\u2019ve always got something \u201cuseful\u201d playing in my headphones – because there\u2019s always more to learn. Except, sometimes, what I really need is a pause. <\/p>\n\n There are so many of these little moments. And once I started noticing them – I also started giving myself more space before making decisions. It really helps. <\/p>\n\n FOMO might seem harmless. But it\u2019s not. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n It kills focus. It tricks you into thinking that if you\u2019re everywhere – you\u2019re growing, staying relevant. But in reality, you\u2019re just exhausted. Because your attention is always somewhere else. It\u2019s hard to be present. <\/p>\n\n – You\u2019re in your head, thinking about what you could be doing. Or about how someone else is doing it better, faster, more impressively. <\/p>\n\n – You say yes to things that aren\u2019t really yours – projects, meetings, opportunities – just in case. You think, \u201cWhy not?\u201d, \u201cIt might come in handy.\u201d And then end up feeling drained and hollow. <\/p>\n\n – You don\u2019t truly rest, even on your day off. Because somewhere, something is happening without you. And that \u201csomething\u201d always feels more important than what you\u2019ve chosen. <\/p>\n\n – You compare yourself to others. Even when you know it makes no sense. <\/p>\n\n You feel like you\u2019re falling behind. Like your reality is somehow\u2026 not enough. (That\u2019s exactly why I don\u2019t try to paint a perfect picture on this blog – I never want anyone comparing their real life to my carefully curated version.) <\/p>\n\n In work, FOMO can be especially dangerous<\/strong><\/p>\n\n It might wear the mask of \u201cI want to grow\u201d. But really, it\u2019s fear that you\u2019ll miss the opportunity. So you take on too much. Say yes to everything – \u201cwhat if this is it?\u201d You don\u2019t choose, you\u2019re being dragged. You stay busy – not fulfilled. You\u2019re doing a lot – but the progress is not sufficient. <\/p>\n\n How do you know it\u2019s FOMO?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n \u2013 You can\u2019t fully relax, even on a weekend <\/p>\n\n \u2013 Making choices is hard – saying a “no” feels risky <\/p>\n\n \u2013 You often compare yourself to others <\/p>\n\n \u2013 Your tiredness isn\u2019t from doing too much – it\u2019s from being scattered <\/p>\n\n \u2013 You always feel like something\u2019s missing<\/p>\n\n What helps (me and my clients):<\/strong><\/p>\n\n What to do?<\/p>\n\n – Asking: do I really want this? Or am I afraid to miss out? <\/p>\n\n – Slowing down, even just a little. The world won\u2019t leave without you. <\/p>\n\n – Coming back to your “why” and your goals. <\/p>\n\n – Learning to say “no” – even to exciting things<\/p>\n\n – Trusting that what\u2019s truly yours will wait for you<\/p>\n\n And most importantly:<\/strong> Today, something personal. I\u2019ll tell you about a pattern I catch myself in more often than I\u2019d like. It\u2019s FOMO – fear of missing out. 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